Shane Dawson, YouTube personality, has officially joined the rest of the YouTube LGBTQ community. In the past couple months, we have seen YouTube stars such as the beauty guru, Ingrid Nelson, come out about their sexuality via video to their fans and the world. Last Tuesday, Shane Dawson decided to do the same as well and released an incredibly honest and excruciatingly beautiful video about his sexuality.
For those who are not familiar with him, he’s a comedic parody sort of Youtuber with a fan base of six million on his Shane Dawson TV. He has released songs, a movie (Not Cool), and recently a book called I Hate My Selfie.
I’ve been watching him since I was in middle school and it doesn’t really surprise me. But his video still brought me close to tears. His struggle and desire to live and let love is brutally honest. When he refers to not fully straight or gay, and how it would be so much easier to be so black and white, it made me deeply analyze bisexuality. I know it can be a deeply misunderstood and targeted color of the spectrum. I am not saying it is more special or harder than the rest of the colors of the spectrum, but I would like to clear up the air and gave validation to Shane Dawson through the insight my bisexual friends provided me.
“Some think we aren’t ‘gay’ enough to fit into the community. Honestly it just feels like I can’t fit in anywhere.”
A lot of misunderstanding stems from some people wanting to see things black and white – either your raging gay or straight as a ruler. So when they encounter someone who identifies as bisexual, they think a variety of things – they’re either promiscuous, trying to hide the fact they’re just straight up gay, or that their bisexual friends want to have sex with them. One individual I interviewed, Conor, said his hardest obstacle in his journey is finding a group of friends that understand he simply wants a platonic relationship, aka, a friendship, not sex. Another individual said she has even encountered people who have assumed she would be down for a threesome. Even parts of the LGBTQA community don’t accept it. Rosie goes as far to say, “Some think we aren’t ‘gay’ enough to fit into the community. Honestly it just feels like I can’t fit in anywhere.”
So what does bisexuality mean to these individuals? According to the UCLA, bisexuality is defined as, “a person emotionally, physically, and/or sexually attracted to males/men and females/women. This attraction does not have to be equally split between genders and there may be a preference for one gender over others.” To Rosie, it means the willingness to date and go further with both men and women. So what’s the difference between that and pansexual? Conor clears that up by saying that pansexual covers more than just the two sexes – it covers gender fluid people as well.
“Just because I’ve only dated guys does not make me any less bisexual than a girl who dates mostly girls,” Hannah replies, “or a guy that keeps a very even balance.”
Both individuals have always felt that it was normal in their lives so they never felt like they had to come to terms with it like Shane Dawson is currently doing. From the start, Shane Dawson was told that it was wrong where the two weren’t told until they started coming out. But the struggle is still real. Rosie has been told that her identity was her desire for attention. She feels like she has to continually prove her sexuality because so far she has dated guys. “Just because I’ve only dated guys does not make me any less bisexual than a girl who dates mostly girls,” Hannah replies, “or a guy that keeps a very even balance.”
“The most exciting part of bisexuality would probably be being able to date like 60% of the population rather than just 50%.”
Don’t let this discourage you, though. When asked what was exciting about his sexuality, Conor said, “The most exciting part of bisexuality would probably be being able to date like 60% of the population rather than just 50%.” For Shane Dawson, he is ready is to let love in his life and live his life. If more people were true to themselves and had a similar mindset, bisexuality wouldn’t be so hard to understand because once we stop putting labels on ourselves, it becomes love. Although it is important to have an identity and bisexuality is a complex one by societal standards, all it is in the end is love. I applaud the individuals that were willing to talk to me and also I congratulate Shane Dawson on his coming out. The world is becoming a better place because of people brave enough to be themselves.