React: Youtuber Shane Dawson’s Sexuality and Bisexuality

Shane Dawson, YouTube personality, has officially joined the rest of the YouTube LGBTQ community. In the past couple months, we have seen YouTube stars such as the beauty guru, Ingrid Nelson, come out about their sexuality via video to their fans and the world. Last Tuesday, Shane Dawson decided to do the same as well and released an incredibly honest and excruciatingly beautiful video about his sexuality.

For those who are not familiar with him, he’s a comedic parody sort of Youtuber with a fan base of six million on his Shane Dawson TV. He has released songs, a movie (Not Cool), and recently a book called I Hate My Selfie.

I’ve been watching him since I was in middle school and it doesn’t really surprise me. But his video still brought me close to tears. His struggle and desire to live and let love is brutally honest. When he refers to not fully straight or gay, and how it would be so much easier to be so black and white, it made me deeply analyze bisexuality. I know it can be a deeply misunderstood and targeted color of the spectrum. I am not saying it is more special or harder than the rest of the colors of the spectrum, but I would like to clear up the air and gave validation to Shane Dawson through the insight my bisexual friends provided me.

“Some think we aren’t ‘gay’ enough to fit into the community. Honestly it just feels like I can’t fit in anywhere.”

A lot of misunderstanding stems from some people wanting to see things black and white – either your raging gay or straight as a ruler. So when they encounter someone who identifies as bisexual, they think a variety of things – they’re either promiscuous, trying to hide the fact they’re just straight up gay, or that their bisexual friends want to have sex with them. One individual I interviewed, Conor, said his hardest obstacle in his journey is finding a group of friends that understand he simply wants a platonic relationship, aka, a friendship, not sex. Another individual said she has even encountered people who have assumed she would be down for a threesome. Even parts of the LGBTQA community don’t accept it. Rosie goes as far to say, “Some think we aren’t ‘gay’ enough to fit into the community. Honestly it just feels like I can’t fit in anywhere.”

So what does bisexuality mean to these individuals? According to the UCLA, bisexuality is defined as, “a person emotionally, physically, and/or sexually attracted to males/men and females/women. This attraction does not have to be equally split between genders and there may be a preference for one gender over others.” To Rosie, it means the willingness to date and go further with both men and women. So what’s the difference between that and pansexual? Conor clears that up by saying that pansexual covers more than just the two sexes – it covers gender fluid people as well.

“Just because I’ve only dated guys does not make me any less bisexual than a girl who dates mostly girls,” Hannah replies, “or a guy that keeps a very even balance.”

Both individuals have always felt that it was normal in their lives so they never felt like they had to come to terms with it like Shane Dawson is currently doing. From the start, Shane Dawson was told that it was wrong where the two weren’t told until they started coming out. But the struggle is still real. Rosie has been told that her identity was her desire for attention. She feels like she has to continually prove her sexuality because so far she has dated guys. “Just because I’ve only dated guys does not make me any less bisexual than a girl who dates mostly girls,” Hannah replies, “or a guy that keeps a very even balance.”

“The most exciting part of bisexuality would probably be being able to date like 60% of the population rather than just 50%.”

Don’t let this discourage you, though. When asked what was exciting about his sexuality, Conor said, “The most exciting part of bisexuality would probably be being able to date like 60% of the population rather than just 50%.” For Shane Dawson, he is ready is to let love in his life and live his life. If more people were true to themselves and had a similar mindset, bisexuality wouldn’t be so hard to understand because once we stop putting labels on ourselves, it becomes love. Although it is important to have an identity and bisexuality is a complex one by societal standards, all it is in the end is love. I applaud the individuals that were willing to talk to me and also I congratulate Shane Dawson on his coming out. The world is becoming a better place because of people brave enough to be themselves.

 

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Falling Back into Youtube

It started out with a non-stop replay of music videos in sixth grade. It really wasn’t until eighth grade that comedians and artists began to blossom simply by sharing themselves to the internet. I soon fell in love with YouTube with a passion. I would faithfully check my subscriptions on a Thursday night and watch every single one. YouTubers like LiveLavaLive, Equals 3, and Charlieissocoolike offered me a world that I still wasn’t a part of. Living in a small town, this was my branching out to discover new and wonderful ways of living life.

Then I moved to Jackson, WY, and everything changed. I was so caught up in this new, foreign world and a growing past that took all my time. All these addictions soon faded and eventually faded altogether. It probably didn’t help that the only internet we had was a faraway neighbor’s. I would place my iPod on the edge of my desk in the corner of my room for it even catch the signal. I really neglected my subscriptions.

Now, with internet at home, I was finally able to start YouTube again. But it didn’t come to me immediately. I found some new people to watch and I was actually quite reluctant to watch all my oldies like Nanalew or Strawberry 17. Channels like LiveLavaLive, once abundant in videos, now had months in between. Channels like Cohenism decided to take a hike and start something completely new. My old comforts had mostly moved on.

Like a breakup, I had to find something new first before I went back to remember the past. I started with gaming channels. Most specifically, Pewdiepie, then Cinnatoastken and finally Markiplier. These eventually branched me out to people like SuperMaryFace and TheFineBros. Once I had a new set of comforts, I finally was able to face my exes.

I found out that WJYWJYWHAT moved on and started a new channel where he now goes by his name, Wyatt Yates. Unlike his old channel, he tried something different, too, with videos that he mostly talks in than the skits he use to do. Which suits me fine.

Strawberry 17 grew and became a channel that is for the general public. She not only talks but also does DIY and try-videos. She use to do more short films but seems to enjoy the more personal videos she now makes.

Mitchell Davis, (LiveLavaLive), definitely almost disappeared. He use to do these really funny skits that I would constantly replay and basically spam the heck out of the like button. Now, his videos are few but he has grown into himself and producing high-quality videos when he does upload.

TheComputerNerd01 still does skits and music parodies. I found that either I’ve grown out of them or maybe it just feels repetitive. Nonetheless, I can tell his camera-operating skills have improved.

Throughout this discovery and expedition back into my once favorite media, I couldn’t help but fall back in love again. I’ve made new subscriptions and smile back on the days when I use to watch videos with Charlieissocoolike would sport red hair, speak in an American accent or read from Twilight. It’s really been a long time but now we’ve all come to grow. Although, I still cannot deny my dedicated fandom to all the amazing YouTubers on YouTube.